okay finally got them working with some help from from a friend of mine. The passenger side was wired up properly and the drivers side had to be rewired cause the polarity was wrong for a led
still gotta decide whether to keep them blue or change to hyperwhite. But at anyrate I never drive with my parking lights on so they are only seen when the car is remote started, or when I arm or disarm the alarm

and here is a pic of them on with my neons